[Tuesday] Discussion: Saying No

Join our discord: https://discord.gg/sXmd8MRvmr It’s one of the shortest words we have, and for many of us one of the hardest to say. We say yes to the extra project, the second drink, the favor we don’t have time for, the invitation we’d rather skip — and then wonder why we’re tired and a little resentful. Others find saying no comes easily and are sometimes surprised to learn how it landed. Tonight is a chance to compare notes on where our no’s come easily, where they don’t, and what we’ve learned from the times we said the wrong one. 1. How easy is it for you to say no? Does it depend on who’s asking? 2. Think of a recent yes you wish had been a no. What made you agree in the moment? 3. And the reverse — a no you’re glad you said, even if it was uncomfortable at the time. 4. Where did your habits around no come from? How was it handled in your family growing up? 5. Are there areas of life where you say no easily and others where you can’t? Work, family, friends, strangers — where’s the soft spot? 6. How do you say no when you do — directly, with a long explanation, by going quiet and hoping it fades? Does your style match how you’d like to be told no? 7. How does it feel to be on the receiving end? Is there a way of being turned down that you actually respect? 8. Have you ever said yes to something and then quietly not done it? Is that a kind of no? 9. Do you think it gets easier to say no as you get older, or just different? 10. Is there a no you’ve been meaning to say for a long time and haven’t? What’s holding it up? 11. If you could go back and give your twenty-year-old self one piece of advice about saying no, what would it be? These are just some of the questions we will discuss during our meetup. No preparation needed, just bring yourself and a willingness to listen and share your thoughts. The meetup will be structured in a way to promote small group discussion so everyone has a chance to listen, be heard,…